Not Able to Cry - The Alchemy of Tears

Practitioners of the medieval "science" of Alchemy famously dedicated their investigations and experiments toward transmuting base materials into precious materials. The ultimate prize at which they aimed was the Philosophers Stone... a substance that they believed had properties that would allow them to turn base metals into, Tears, pure gold.Some alchemists however, subscribed to a parallel view that they called internal alchemy and instead of trying to create gold, they sought to create an elixir of life that would cure all disease and prolong life indefinitely.



Psychological theorist, Carl Jung and his followers were fascinated by alchemy as a metaphor for psychological functioning in the Western mind. One of his early collaborators,, Tears, Marie-Louise Von Franz, described how the alchemical process called liquefactio resembled the psychological use of tears.The alchemists believed that the prima materia, the raw materials had often hardened or solidified in the wrong way and could not be worked with. Von Franz pointed out that psychologically in some individuals, raw emotional states rigidify in ways that obstruct emotional development.



The alchemists dealt with this hardening by proposing that the minerals had to be melted dissolved or liquefied. Von Franz followed the metaphor and proposed that underlying this image is the psychological understanding that sometimes a hardened personality needed to dissolve in tears and despair.In more ordinary language, for some people rational attitudes have "hardened in a wrong way,", Tears, that is, they have locked the person into habitual patterns of behavior and attitude which are now harmful to them.



These rigid, restrictive emotional habits often also preclude healthy, assertive or communicative emotional responses which are perceived at best as unhelpful, and at worst, dangerous because they make the individual vulnerable. These individuals, Tears, often cannot or will not permit themselves to cry... even in the face of their most terrible losses. Breaking through to tears creates a loss of conscious control, a breaking down, Tears, of conscious barriers which creates space for movement and change.



Compared to the habitual attitude of rigidity and control, this can feel like frightening chaos, Tears, ..."dissolution of the personality, Tears, into tears and despair," but the individual may find in therapy, perhaps for the first time, a safe space where the creative influence of emotion and the unconscious can flow into the space and do their work of promoting growth and healing Therapy, Tears, , Tears, and the therapist act as a container to protect, Tears, the person while they reorganize themselves and incorporate necessary new elements.

Susan Meindl, MA, is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Montreal Canada. She has a special interest in Jungian ideas and practices a Jungian approach to psychodynamic psychotherapy

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Handwriting Without Tears - Use The Correct Approach When Teaching Left Handed Kids

In the last few years the number of left, Tears, handed persons has increased, Tears, dramatically. This is partly because left, Tears, handed children are not forced, Tears, to use the right hand for writing any more but are rather encouraged, Tears, to use whichever hand the child shows a preference to. Previously a left handed child was always corrected and encouraged to use the right hand.A left handed child cannot be taught to write using the same principles that are used to teach a right handed child.



The normal and the more regular methods of teaching are, Tears, more suited for a right handed child. Often a right handed person is not even aware of the problems a left handed person has to face.Here are some of the common problems faced by a left handed child:Push Vs Pull: When a right handed child is writing he or she is pulling the pen/pencil across the paper. This works well because we write left to right. Left handed children have to push, Tears, their pen/pencil across the page.



This is quite hard. This also makes the nib of the pen/pencil go deeper into the paper rather than flow smoothly.Smudging: When a left handed child is writing on the paper his or her hand is following the pen/pencil. And this way it is easy to smudge the letters they just wrote. This can, Tears, cause a real mess. The mess can be even more when a left handed person uses a proper nib in cartridge or a fountain pen.Watch What You Write: Since we write from left to right (in majority of the languages), a right handed person can watch what they are writing as they are writing.



This is often difficult for a left handed person and hence they can develop bad handwriting if not taught, Tears, using the correct method and approach.Here are some of the ways in which you can help a left handed approach:Mindset: First and foremost never ever discourage a left handed child from using the left hand for writing.Paper Position: Rotate the paper 45 degrees clockwise (top to the right). This way by moving the paper to the right (rather than the traditional approach of keeping it to the left) you are allowing the left handed child to view their writing as they write.



This gives them confidence, makes them right faster and teaches them handwriting skills.Pencil Position: Left handed children should hold their pencils an inch and half higher than, Tears, right handed children. Encourage them to keep their wrist, Tears, and hand below the writing line. If you find there is a lot of smudging then may be use a harder lead pencil like number 3 instead of a number 2 lead pencil.Avoid Hooking: One of the main problems faced by left handed children is that they cannot see what they are writing.



In order to be able to see what they are writing they tend to hook their hands above the writing line and write. This is a very difficult posture and cumbersome. Discourage them from hooking. A proper paper position and pencil position, Tears, will enable them to see what they are writing. So encourage proper paper position and good pencil position and discourage hooking.Special Products: There are special pens and pencils specifically designed for left handed persons. Make use of them and teach your children handwriting skills the correct way.

What Another Tear?

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